Writing by Dana Goldman

A Quick Judgment Reality Check: 2 Questions & 3 Fast Facts

A Quick Judgment Reality Check: 2 Questions & 3 Fast Facts

Let’s do a quick reality check in the form of two questions: Mentally jot down one aspect of your life that you’re worried others judging you about. (Physical appearance? Certain unwanted habits? Your status with work?) Now ask yourself this: In the last month/6 months/12 months, how many times has someone BESIDES YOURSELF explicitly judgedRead more about A Quick Judgment Reality Check: 2 Questions & 3 Fast Facts[…]

Why You Won’t See Me Quoted In A Magazine Next Month

Why You Won’t See Me Quoted In A Magazine Next Month

Last week, my email dinged with a message from a magazine writer asking for an interview. Hurrah! I thought. I love talking about therapy! But then I read closely. The writer wanted my expert tips on how parents should design their children’s rooms for optimal development, including the “right” kinds of toys. I felt my heart slowly sink back to it’sRead more about Why You Won’t See Me Quoted In A Magazine Next Month[…]

Newsflash! Self-Compassion and Self-Improvement Aren’t Enemies

Newsflash! Self-Compassion and Self-Improvement Aren’t Enemies

I’ve been thinking lots lately about everything that gets in the way of self-compassion. For most of us, it’s much easier to feel compassionate toward others — especially children — than it is to feel some gentle kindness or understanding toward ourselves. When it comes to relating to our own imperfect selves, we’re impatient and critical.Read more about Newsflash! Self-Compassion and Self-Improvement Aren’t Enemies[…]

Don’t Believe Facebook! Comparison, Judgment and What’s Not to Like

Don’t Believe Facebook! Comparison, Judgment and What’s Not to Like

Y’all, it’s time to talk about Facebook, that addictive, terrible-wonderful black-hole of photos and words from friends and “friends” that makes about 90% of us feel like our lives are crap, at least occasionally. How do I know this? I was on Facebook for ten minutes up until about 10 seconds ago, and in thatRead more about Don’t Believe Facebook! Comparison, Judgment and What’s Not to Like[…]