Writing by Dana Goldman

Revisiting Habits, asking “How’s This Working For Me?”

Revisiting Habits, asking “How’s This Working For Me?”

A month ago I went cold turkey. No online, paper, or radio news. No social media. No falling down the internet rabbit hole. It wasn’t a particularly well-thought-out, planned-for decision. (Which defies everything we think we know about habit change – right? Conventional wisdom is that habits are easiest to change if we have aRead more about Revisiting Habits, asking “How’s This Working For Me?”[…]

Put Off The Laundry! Instead: An Important, Overlooked Tool for Habit Changing in the New Year

Put Off The Laundry! Instead: An Important, Overlooked Tool for Habit Changing in the New Year

I should be doing laundry, or scrubbing the toilet, or any number of household tasks. But I’m here to tell you to put those things off. If you have a few moments (and I’m going to guess so, if you’re reading this blog post) it’s likely the most useful way you can spend this timeRead more about Put Off The Laundry! Instead: An Important, Overlooked Tool for Habit Changing in the New Year[…]

A Quick Judgment Reality Check: 2 Questions & 3 Fast Facts

A Quick Judgment Reality Check: 2 Questions & 3 Fast Facts

Let’s do a quick reality check in the form of two questions: Mentally jot down one aspect of your life that you’re worried others judging you about. (Physical appearance? Certain unwanted habits? Your status with work?) Now ask yourself this: In the last month/6 months/12 months, how many times has someone BESIDES YOURSELF explicitly judgedRead more about A Quick Judgment Reality Check: 2 Questions & 3 Fast Facts[…]

Why You Won’t See Me Quoted In A Magazine Next Month

Why You Won’t See Me Quoted In A Magazine Next Month

Last week, my email dinged with a message from a magazine writer asking for an interview. Hurrah! I thought. I love talking about therapy! But then I read closely. The writer wanted my expert tips on how parents should design their children’s rooms for optimal development, including the “right” kinds of toys. I felt my heart slowly sink back to it’sRead more about Why You Won’t See Me Quoted In A Magazine Next Month[…]

Newsflash! Self-Compassion and Self-Improvement Aren’t Enemies

Newsflash! Self-Compassion and Self-Improvement Aren’t Enemies

I’ve been thinking lots lately about everything that gets in the way of self-compassion. For most of us, it’s much easier to feel compassionate toward others — especially children — than it is to feel some gentle kindness or understanding toward ourselves. When it comes to relating to our own imperfect selves, we’re impatient and critical.Read more about Newsflash! Self-Compassion and Self-Improvement Aren’t Enemies[…]