Writing by Dana Goldman

Revisiting Habits, asking “How’s This Working For Me?”

Revisiting Habits, asking “How’s This Working For Me?”

A month ago I went cold turkey. No online, paper, or radio news. No social media. No falling down the internet rabbit hole. It wasn’t a particularly well-thought-out, planned-for decision. (Which defies everything we think we know about habit change – right? Conventional wisdom is that habits are easiest to change if we have aRead more about Revisiting Habits, asking “How’s This Working For Me?”[…]

Put Off The Laundry! Instead: An Important, Overlooked Tool for Habit Changing in the New Year

Put Off The Laundry! Instead: An Important, Overlooked Tool for Habit Changing in the New Year

I should be doing laundry, or scrubbing the toilet, or any number of household tasks. But I’m here to tell you to put those things off. If you have a few moments (and I’m going to guess so, if you’re reading this blog post) it’s likely the most useful way you can spend this timeRead more about Put Off The Laundry! Instead: An Important, Overlooked Tool for Habit Changing in the New Year[…]

“We’ve got to tell the unvarnished truth.”

“We’ve got to tell the unvarnished truth.”

I spent the weekend immersed in suffering. It’s a weird thing to say, but I’m not sure what else is there to say after a long weekend in Washington D.C. spent at the National Museum of African American History and Culture, the United States Holocaust Memorial Museum, and the National Museum of the American Indian. I’m gratefulRead more about “We’ve got to tell the unvarnished truth.”[…]

The Hardest Things To Talk About Are Sometimes the Most Important

The Hardest Things To Talk About Are Sometimes the Most Important

It’s easy to circle around the hard things: Death, shame, our heart’s disappointments. They can feel too intense to name directly: abuse histories, experiences with sexual assault and harassment, death and loss, abortions and miscarriages. They hover at the edge of our consciousness, where we try to push them away and distract ourselves: the waysRead more about The Hardest Things To Talk About Are Sometimes the Most Important[…]

What Information Should Families Have If Their College-Age Kid is Depressed?

What Information Should Families Have If Their College-Age Kid is Depressed?

I read with sadness but not surprise this article about suicide on college campuses. A big question the article talks about is when and if parents should be informed if their age 18+ kid  is struggling. I’ve written before about the rise in anxiety and depression in teens and the general public. The news onRead more about What Information Should Families Have If Their College-Age Kid is Depressed?[…]

What I’m Reading: Grief, Loss, And Life After

What I’m Reading: Grief, Loss, And Life After

Grief and loss are the worst. And really it doesn’t matter whether it’s anticipatory grief (waiting for a death that you know is coming sooner rather than later), grief after an unexpected or expected loss, a collective grief (like after a school shooting) or grief involving trauma. What does matter is that grief can changeRead more about What I’m Reading: Grief, Loss, And Life After[…]